Want Freedom From Procrastination?

Firstly, happy Independence Day!

On most special days, holidays, and weekends – pretty much on all the days when I can laze back in bed for an extra ten minutes – I ask myself, ‘how can I stop being lazy.’ 😂

Ten on ten for the irony of it all!

It looks like I am not alone at all.

Someone recently said to me, ‘Girija, if I am so smart, why can’t I get this crap done once and for all??’

They are trying to lose 20 kilos.

And another friend said of her cousin, ‘I dunno why she drinks so much – she’s way too intelligent for that.’

In both cases, they are saying – ‘yeah yeah, we’ll get to it one of these days’

Familiar huh?

I know I do it all the time! All I’ve control over is, to do less of it, that’s all.

What it is that you are procrastinating doesn’t matter – whether it is starting to eat healthily or learning some skill, or whatever it is, the dynamic of procrastination is the same.

When you sense that other people’s assessment of you is much higher than your evaluation of your talent or skill to get that specific job done, you will not like to risk losing your value in their eyes.

Therefore, in running the cost-benefit analysis of things, your brain will decide it is much better not to ruin that false but favorable assessment of the world (she’s way too intelligent).  And our brains are always running cost-benefit analysis on everything. Or sometimes it could be your self-assessment albeit a distorted one (I am so smart) about your “talent.” And therefore, it decides that it is wise to postpone doing or even starting the damn thing indefinitely!

This is what we call the ego trap in evolutionary psychology circles. And this is precisely what you must learn to recognize and choose to take the counter-intuitive step if you want real and lasting freedom from procrastination.

Ask me why.

It’s because that is where your opportunity to earn precious self-esteem lies hidden!

Love,

g

What Two Of My Fav Writers Say About Tracking

Depending on where in the world you are, it’s the last day of July.

Already??

Phew!

Yes. It just flew by us, no? All of July, I discussed Leela’s story with you. Even in bits and pieces, it gave you a glimpse of how tracking is a useful habit. Today, I’ll share two of my favorite writers/influencers and their insight on the topic of monitoring.

My lovely friend, whether you’re learning to add a salad to your meals, trying to lose some weight, or looking to fit in some exercises into your routine – you just got to track whatever it is that you are doing. And then, in tiny increments, steadily improve upon the metrics.

See what this eminent surgeon and author Atul Gawande and productivity expert James Clear say about tracking.

Today, take a 30-minute break to be by yourself.

Just you .. with your thoughts, notebook, and pencil. Tomorrow is the beginning of a new month. Ask yourself what you’d like to accomplish – it doesn’t have to be some mega big ambition. Even that desire to wake up 10 minutes earlier is a valid goal to go after. You know, five months is a l-o-n-g time to get stuff done. Okay, at least long enough to get it started and get some traction.

You can’t ask for better mentors than Atul Gawande and James Clear for what you’re setting out to do. I hope you’ll check these links out.

Warmly,

g

 

A Topic So Important That I Want To Write About It All Year!

Hi, lovely reader!

Welcome to July! Half the year is already behind us, huh?!

Another way to look at it is – half the year is still ahead of us, for all that we’ve planned to accomplish before 2019 ends.

So, how do you do it?

I don’t know if you’ve ever used this magic habit – tracking.

A common habit of successful folks

I’ve taken courses and studied a variety of topics under some uber-cool people like Ramit Sethi, Todd Herman, Marie Forleo, Amy Porterfield, and so many more. Tracking IS NOT OPTIONAL when you work/learn with these folks.

I can CONFIDENTLY say this one thing I learned, my friend – NOT tracking your progress is a serious mistake – whether it is with food, weight loss, money, dating – whatever it may be, that you are trying to get better at, you.must.track!

Struggle #1 that everyone deals with

For all this month of July, let’s take the example of one of my beautiful clients who goes by the fictitious name of Leela, and I’ll guide you to learn some critical lessons in tracking.

If you remember her story from last week, life put her in a situation where she had to make a 180-degree turn concerning food. And we had budget constraints for whatever we were going to do, mainly because of the hefty medical expenses she was taking care of.

So, I asked her to please give me a list of A-L-L the edible items currently in her kitchen. Oh my goodness – the struggle #1 showed up like crazy: DENIAL. After much back and forth and immense resistance, she sent me this ‘sterile’ list – now looking back, even she laughs about it!

This is what denial looks like

Next week when I share with you all that she DID NOT include in the list, you will see what denial was all about 🙂 

But for now, see the list she sent – she even sent the prices of things (I had never asked for it!). This is how we all distract ourselves 🙂

rice –  120 x 15

idli rice – 115 x 4

t dhal – 180 x 6

u dhal – 180 x 6

g gram – 185 x 1

c dhal – 145 x 1

g nut – 140 / 0.5 kg

kabuli c 140/0.5

To be continued.

Mastering Food Budget – A Client Story

I’ve got a story for you today! Grab a chair have a read … the aha moment is just beautiful.

Background:
This client of mine, let’s call her Leela. She lives with her husband and two kids and two sets of parents a few steps away from her place. A young mother herself, she was doing a fabulous job of being there for the two sets of elderly parents, balancing the social dynamics and all with admirable poise. Now and then, she would think of buying this or that as a way of adding to her convenience – for instance, chopped onions, peeled garlic or washed cauliflower ready to use – and she would say – ‘oh this, I can’t fit in Girija .. it costs extra and it adds up.’

Crisis:
And then, some health issues flared up, requiring her to reconsider anything and everything she would put in her mouth. With this, her meticulous attention to balancing their family budget took a new level of intensity.

Silver lining:
This happens with every single one of us.
Think back to the times when – you have just 30 days to go before the exam, and you have that many chapters in this many subjects to revise. When you feel you are already resourceful and are facing constraints – you learn a whole new way of looking at things. That is to say, your definition of resourcefulness goes up by a few notches! This exact thing happened with Leela, too.

Crescendo:
Suddenly the situation was that she had to eat organic veggies and fruits as much as she could. She had to switch to non-dairy milk and curd. She had to bring in outside help for the kitchen. And she just had to stretch that budget and make it work! The health issues have a way of bringing urgency as nothing else does in life.

Teaching moment:
Leela is one of the most intelligent and sensitive people I know. I only have to hint at something, and she gets super creative and goes to town with it all by herself!

I remember sharing a leaf off of my own life and saying, “Leela, I became friends with one wealthy lady at my art class. Those were the days just after my wedding, and everything about running the house was new to me. My friend and I were window shopping, and it was the 2nd or 3rd of July as I remember it. And there were attractive sales everywhere we looked. She finally picked up a beautiful vase and had the florist next door put together the incredible bouquet using some of the best blossoms. It looked HEAVENLY. And she had quietly said to me – the best part is that it is guilt-free spending. I had gotten curious about what she meant and asked. That chat with her that followed my asking profoundly changed my life.”

Changes I made following that chat with my wealthy friend:

When the salary comes in – set it up such that savings portion is taken away even before I can lay my hand on the spending portion of the money.

When I sit for breakfast – I finish eating my day’s quota of vegetables before I put anything else in my mouth.

When we eat at restaurants– I tell them to box away half the amount in the takeaway box even before they bring my other half to eat.

When I wake up – I make the bed and fold the blankets so that I’m not tempted to back and curl up again.

So different compared to what I had seen and known:

I had only seen people do it the opposite way – at 7 pm, they’d remember how they haven’t had water all day and guzzle a whole jug. Halfway through dinner, they’d remember salad and eat some – begrudgingly. Exercising, money-saving, doing homework in time – almost always was some version of ‘oh-I-should-have.’

Aha moment:
After listening to my own story, she instantly identified what she could do differently. She chuckled – “aiyyo Giri, I am buying cream biscuits and namkeens ahead of buying rice and vegetables!”

Leela has promised to send in her new take on the family budget, and I’ll be sure to share it with you! She has done a stellar job of it.

And for you, my friend, my reminder is this: pay yourself first – whether it is time, money, love, or energy – first pay for what matters to you, don’t ever make it an afterthought.

Love,

g

Flop Stories. And Lessons Only They Can Teach

My lovely reader,

When you read my posts about inner work, beliefs, and transcending cravings yeh woh week after week – it may very likely give you a picture of everything being ultra-organized smooth sailing perfection on the other side of the weekly email.

Oooh! I wish I could show you my picture as I write this, my friend – an entire day of work that hasn’t gone well, more drafts than I care to admit that did not feel right and recipe video that I could not edit for the life of me! I am irked and sleepy. And I had nothing to write to you or put on the blog post. I want to hide under the table and not come out ever again!

And! I found it impossible to sleep without writing something to you. What would I say to my coach and mastermind group – that I chickened out?? I’d rather own it to you! So, sit down – let’s chat. 🙂

This is the ugly underbelly of commitment, my dear reader. It stretches you, and it clobbers you to doing what you’ve promised. Even when no one is seeing, that person inside is always looking!

Whether it’s writing a blog post or eating vegetables at every meal, commitment to doing it consistently – against all the odds, no matter what – can and does feel like it sucks the energy out of you.

It is normal for one to wonder sometimes, what the hell am I putting myself through. The trick, however, is to feel that and yet do what needs to be done. You must own the sucky feeling and do the best you can. It doesn’t have to be perfect. But it better be earnest!

The messiness of life is universal, my lovely reader. So, that’s no excuse. And like my coach says, we have to decide which one we’ll keep – excuses? Or results? Because there’s room for just one of them!

Lots of love until next time!

A Habit That Keeps You From Reaching Your Goals

I’m going to share a little story about myself – all real – to illustrate a point about eating healthy and dieting. More precisely, it’s about one of the top three reasons women fail to realize their healthy eating and weight loss goals. So, here we go –

For the last three or so years, I’ve gotten curious about botanical fragrances. This interest has taken me to places where I could meet with people that distill essential oils as a hobby, blend heavenly perfumes out of foraged plant material, smell essential oils at flower shows, and plant-centered events. It brings me great joy to connect with folks primarily into caring for the plants and our earth.

One thing led to another, and I was now dabbling with blending my botanical perfumes for fun, as a hobby. I recently found myself wanting to study more with a seasoned fragrance artist (look up Roxanna Villa if it interests you) and take courses. If you know anything about essential oils, they are precious, precious plant offerings, reflected in their prices. It is not anything that one can simply goof away with! And therefore, I was bogged down with ‘why do I want to study this out of the blue?? who am I to become some fragrance artist?’

This is precisely the kind of self-doubt that stops so so many women from working on themselves. And I wanted you to know and see – from my own example – that it happens with every one of us! What’s worse, these self-deceiving thoughts that hold us back from doing things we’re so meant to do sound perfectly legit and reasonable. And when done often enough, they become a habit!

Here are some statements that I get to hear from my people all the time –

“Girija, I need to start watching what I eat. I’ve fallen off the track too bad! But things at work are busy for the next three months. I am drowning in my project related work.”

“G, I’ve meant to call you and set an appointment. My aged in-laws are visiting and can’t tell you how occupied I’ve become! And it’s not even like they’re bedridden or anything. But people, visitors ..! Oh, dear, I am full!”

“I can’t do such strict things around food ya Girija. Others may do it fine, but I can’t make time for all the effort it takes to eat salads.”

This time I had to navigate my self out of a similar self-defeating mess. Trust me. It took a while to recognize that about my thoughts – like I was saying earlier, the thoughts were rational. But it all magically cleared up when I asked myself how I’d handle it if one of my clients or friends were in a situation like mine.

Taking the course with my fragrance artist-teacher would give me the clarity as to what I’d do with that knowledge and experience. And not the other way around. It’s always taking action that gives you direction and clarity.

Within minutes after this dawned on me, plans were made, and a class seat, hotel room, and tickets were all booked. I still felt somewhat shaky and anxious, but deep in my heart, I felt like I had done the right thing for me.

Whether it is eating healthy, getting back on track with something or taking that class – merely thinking about it and waiting for a feeling of readiness to fall from skies, doesn’t advance you at all – it will only keep you spinning wheels in the mud.

And now that I am back from taking the class, I can’t explain how good it all feels. I don’t yet know what I am going to do with it all yet, but I am so relieved to have just done it! In listening to my story, I hope you’re encouraged to take stock and see if there are any banish self-doubting thoughts lingering in there and take action too 

 

 

If You Can Hold A-n-y Belief, Why Hold A Useless One??

“Money is the root of all evil!”
“Men don’t find slender women attractive!”
“True love comes only to a lucky few!”
“Only women with zero ambition choose to stay home!”
“Coaching is for lazy people who can’t figure things out on their own!”
“Who the hell goes to a class to learn how to eat? Or how to breathe?!”

There! I’ve shared half a dozen examples of useless beliefs. And I’ve so many more that are tumbling out from my memory. These are genuine examples of limiting and unhelpful beliefs that I’ve seen people carry – like they’re legit. They felt like it was only a dimwit who’d question it.

When does a belief become useless, you may be wondering.

Any unexamined assumption, especially those that stand in the way of what you want for yourself, is likely an unnecessary belief. If you’re someone that desires to accumulate some money, with a theory such as ‘money is the root of all evil’ you will not be able to hold on to any money for a long enough time – whether you’ve slogged for it or it was generously given to you. So, the belief is a useless one for you to carry, as it is blocking the very thing you desire to have.

Women do the eye roll and give me duh kind of response when I say this. I know I’ve done the same thing with my mentors! But these beliefs aren’t evident unless you look for them. You’ll get a hint of their being active if only you tune in to the things you speak and the words you use. And of course, the results you currently have are a dead giveaway.

Think of it, for instance, if you ardently believed that there’s no point trying to lose weight. Why? Because you’re going to be chubby anyway since everybody in the family is a plus size too – why would your intelligent brain let you waste your precious time and energy over learning to shed it?? The towering belief that ‘I am just like others in my family’ will lead you to implicitly be and do everything the way your family has always done – cook a certain way, eat in a particular manner, and so on. And sadly, you’d have failed at something without even trying.

I’ll leave you with what Dr.Bruce Lipton has said on this topic.“Human beings have a great capacity for sticking to false beliefs with great passion and tenacity. People need to realize that their thoughts are more primary than their genes, because the environment, which is influenced by our thoughts* controls the genes.”

I have a very tough ask for you. Ask yourself what thoughts are you stubbornly holding on to and get curious about them. Just tease yourself and ask ‘what if this isn’t true’ and come up with a contrasting argument for your original argument. Since you’re doing it in the absolute privacy of your mind (or a journal, utmost), you don’t have to worry about losing face – it’s going to be safe. Oh, why, it may even save you a ton of pain, who knows!

* A belief is only a thought that you think often.

Keyboard Shortcut Equivalent For Your Brain – When They’re Great And When They Aren’t!

This may feel crazy to you, but your brain has this reflexive mechanism built into it such that it is constantly looking out for evidence to make your existing beliefs feel right.

Now, I don’t want to paint a horrible picture of the human brain’s most useful features. This reflexive mechanism I just discussed (or cognitive biases as they’re also called), is like keyboard shortcuts on our computers. They simplify routine learning and perception.

But you must guard against these processes becoming your default mechanisms! As if you’re staying loyal to prior belief systems and thoughts just so your brain doesn’t have to “waste energy” looking for new ones – this is self-destructive. And self-deceptive.

Self-deception by way of unexamined faulty thinking is no different than any other buffer that you may be resorting to – food, work, busyness, and what have you – to avoid addressing the real issues in plain sight.

Remember, that’s what we discussed last week – your brain has this exact tendency.

See how Warren Buffet nails it when he says this –

“What the human being is best at doing is interpreting all new information so that their prior conclusions remain intact.”

As if this weren’t enough already, your brain has an affinity to any belief that feeds its pleasure-seeking and pain avoiding tendencies. And you know what, more often than not, you are clueless about any of these tendencies that are always in operation!

By the way, thank you if you’re one of those that wrote in about your beliefs. I’d like you to reflect first and then share with me – what steps would you take to avoid default thinking?

Coffee, Movies And More

Hey lovely reader, I want to ask you something. Raise your hand if you identify yourself as a coffee lover. Would it ring true if you said ‘my name is {fulfill your name}, and I am a lover of all things coffee!’?

When women share this about themselves, I usually laugh and say how they remind me of Rambo! Remember his line. ​​​​​​Rambo is my name, and killing is my game?! This sounds kind of like that. 

Let’s discuss beliefs this month and see what there’s to learn about them. First of all, what’s a belief you may be wondering. It is just a thought we think a lot. Most frequently-thought thoughts become a belief. If you keep thinking a thought like – ‘aha ha! This wonderful aromatic coffee! what would I do without it’ – soon it becomes a belief such as ‘I can’t function without coffee’ or ‘life is not worth it if my days don’t start with a steaming hot cup of filter coffee.’

So, here’s the first thing I want to share when it comes to beliefs. Our brain is a big believer in conserving energy. Like, it doesn’t believe in thinking some new thought because it sees it as wasting energy. So, what does it do? It keeps recycling thoughts over and over and over again.

Please reflect upon this a little bit. And I’d love it if you head over to the comments section and share some of your personal beliefs – could be about coffee or movies! Or even your belief about beliefs.

I’m eager to read your comments 

g

3 steps to make friends with your warring parts

Read this part first: 1. If your name happens to be used in the post below to name a not-so-good character, do not please let that trouble you. I love everyone of these names and I love my friends who are wonderful bearers of these names. This is not specific to any person known or unknown to me. 2. Wherever you see “(fill in your name)” picture yourself in that context and read it as though the part is speaking of you. 

When your internal warring parts are going BAKBAKBAKBAK without allowing for your loving center to wedge in, that’s when you’d hear “a  part of me doesn’t do even the things I know I want to do” – this is where we had paused.

Today, I’ll share 3 most effective steps to take towards getting your parts to become friends with you again.

But first come in and see if you recognize some of your parts –
Well, hey there sweetie! My name PriyaSugar. I’m  (fill your name)’s favorite, most used part. Know why? I say the sweetest things, darling. I love being loved and my expertise is in saying yes, saying sorry no matter what, keeping people happy, and making sure that  (fill your name) is in everybody’s good books. I’ve taught her that life is lovely when she’s smiling 24 x 7. I’m the reason, she eats whatever friends offer her! My fav friend here is PyariSamajhdaari.
Hi, I am LakshmiMoney – I’m (fill your name)’s part who will speak when it feels like she gets way too bindaas about money. My interest and specialty is her financial well-being. I sound kinda nasty – that’s why she often tunes me out – but am very smart and good at heart. When she ignores me, I’ve learned to poke my neighbor to yell on my behalf, lol! I was the one that protected her from buying stupid things and lending money recklessly.
I’m LakshmiMoney’s neighbor, Gussa. She’s the only one besides PyariSamajhdaari, that I get along with – rest are all effing losers! You must know this – I am the most active part around here – ‘cos am always hissing and cussing!! I like systems and I like things going well. And when they don’t, I call her names! I get close to her ear and say mean things all the time – all with a hope that she may ask me why! But (fill your name) has NOT ONCE figured out that, that’s all I ask of her.
Hi, am PayalGhaayal. Thanks to PriyaSugar and few others here, I am the most injured, most hurt, most teary-eyed, sad part here. Gussa protects me, she doesn’t like it when I cry. And when  PyariSamajhdaari is on duty she lovingly cares for me. I dunno why, but (fill your name) has elected PriyaSugar and ShellyBully to boss over us all! PriyaSugar is toxic, Bully is mean.
My dear (fill your name), a big hug to you before we go any further. As you may have realized, your parts want you to listen to them more. They like *you* giving them attention more than them getting attention from each other. They want and like to be led by you. And, there are many more parts, I just interviewed with only a few of them here.
Whenever you sense that one of your parts are not listening, it means that you need to listen to them first. Therefore #1 step for you to take is, to say – “hmm .. tell me more!” So, learn to get curious with yourself and your parts everyday – don’t let them go bonkers at all. And your parts feel very heard when you write down whatever you hear them saying.
The #2 step you’ve got to take is this – make PyariSamajhdaari the boss of all parts. She’s clearly the best representation of you and every part looks up to her and likes her. And after all, she is Pyari and Samajhdaari all at once, isn’t it! She doesn’t make anybody wrong for how they are, she’s accepting of each one of them exactly for how they are. And that is a huge asset.
#3rd step is very big my friend – you must treat PyariSamajhdaari with a great reverence. Like if you think of yourself as the leading lady of your magnum opus – she’s your director. Hers must be the voice that you act upon. Not PriyaSugar’s, not Gussa’s and not PayalGhaayal’s. You must not put any of these parts in the decision making position in your internal office – after all they report to Pyari and it’s insulting if you ignored her!
Now may I say something, (fill your name)? Insights without action are NO good!  Please go and get yourself a notebook and pencil. Switch off every any possible distraction, and speak with your parts. And like a good girl, take down notes as they speak to you.
Love,
g

 

Creating Recipes For Play

The amount of self-judgment I’ve seen with myself in just writing these play-themed posts of this month has been a humbling experience. Initially, I observed thoughts like “what nonsense are you wasting your time talking about” and just looked on with amusement about my resistance to having fun. Since I bring this up with clients, and they’ve often felt bashful about not knowing what to do with themselves by way of play, I wanted to put myself to test. Damn, it _is_ hard!

In this post, I’m going to break it down for you as to what counts as play. Let’s get started –

Playing is a self-directed activity. It must be a voluntary – not repetitive – thing you do. It must be a fun pleasurable activity for its own sake, not because you want to out-do someone or want some result for yourself at the end. This means two people can be involved in the same activity – say going to the gym or going for a run. The one doing for the sheer fun of it is playing while the other who’s doing it as a weight management step is not. So, your attitude matters more than the activity itself.

But then, what specific activity do you indulge in? This is something you must customize to your personality and tastes. You’d not enjoy the same kind of activity as everyone, and you may even have a preference for playing with self or play activity with others involved. Look back to your childhood for clues and just pick up whatever you’re most drawn to.

The biggest challenge is around making it happen – so, schedule it in your calendar. And when the time comes, just get started. It may seem very forced and artificial initially – it sure felt that way for me. And truth be told, it still feels like that way, and it’s okay. I find myself chilling down as I keep at it.

What I’ve seen me help is this – the activity must be planned out. As in, if I have to come up with some fun ideas at the spur of the moment, it doesn’t go all that well. Contrary to what you may think, planning doesn’t spoil the surprise element – it only feeds the excitement and anticipation of what is to come.

To give you a glimpse into what my play sessions looked like this month – I’ve had two so far that went very well and am eagerly looking forward to the next one. The first one was a laugh out loud session with me, seeing some hilarious snippets of sitcoms of yesteryear. The second one was particularly amazing when I went out for a drive and walk around town with my husband to see the cherry blossoms. For this upcoming one, I’ve picked up some lovely colorful origami paper for just a couple of dollars and borrowed an origami book from the library to enjoy some quiet paper folding time with myself, music playing in the background.

What’s going on in your head? I’d love it if you shared some possible ideas that you’re likely to explore in the coming days.

Are You Playing Enough?

Sitting down to discuss food regimens with women is an inevitable part of the work I do. By this point, the client and I would have interacted a fair bit, and the relationship would be established between us. Because of the trust cultivated, we both bring our very vulnerable selves to the table.

And when the reality of the food regimen is about to become active in their routine, it almost brings them tears. It is as if the fun, creative, playful lightness associated with food and leisure is leaving the shores of one’s life. Forever. Never to come back again!

What exactly do we fear to lose in this context? Is it food? I want to talk about this.

One dominion factor comes to mind. Bollywood. Just how ubiquitous this Bollywood stuff has become! We even entertain our gods at our pandals with an offering from Bollywood. If not that, it’s still one of several ‘other-wood’-s!

Like Bollywood and ‘other-wood’ related activities that seem to take up time-space, food has come to define leisure for humans. We reach for food to relax, de-stress us, to uplift us, it is the main component of bonding experiences and more. Oh and, not to mention the dozens of food-related programs and entire channels dedicated to everything food.

A leading chocolate brand surveyed some years ago and declared with great pride, that a whopping 52% of women preferred chocolate over sex. Without a doubt, we’re allowing food to crowd out every other leisure activity we enjoyed as adults one time. So, in discussing the food regimen, it is no surprise that it feels so threatening.

Why food is not suited for leisure or as a play component is an important question you must ask yourself. But first, let’s see why play is essential to us as humans.

Diane Ackerman writes, ” for humans, play is a refuge from ordinary life, a sanctuary of the mind, where one is exempt from life’s customs, methods, and decrees.”

Playing is the most instinctive, play for play’s sake kind of activity there is. Playing is beyond just fun, and definitely beyond gender and age. Scholars have not arrived at any one specific definition of play. Still, they’ve agreed upon this – play is any solo or social activity with elements of anticipation, surprise, pleasure, understanding, strength, and poise.

Given just how play-deprived that modern societies are becoming, there are Play Health experts nowadays. In a hospital and/or clinical setting, these specialists design appropriate play activities for clients.

Like how we’ve come to painfully discover, the opposite of play is NOT work. It’s often some manifestation of depression, suicidal tendencies and addictive behavior towards the screen or cyber-loafing as it’s called, food and substance addiction, and so on. And play is believed to be the missing factor that could heal these people.

There are many benefits to play, and some of them are, developing
– a handle over one’s emotions
– perseverance
– resilience
– problem-solving skills
– boost in creativity

For a variety of reasons ( sometimes related to play pathology like isolation, bullying, etc.) we take to substituting play with food. Because food also shares some of the elements of play, such as pleasure and surprise – we resort to using food. This is alarming, to say the least. Food and eating as an activity that is steeped in purpose. But playing is entirely for its own sake, and food doesn’t lend itself to this type of treatment. But given that it is pleasurable is often misleading as a play activity.

We’ll continue this discussion in future posts. But for now, here’s what I’d like you to do – share below some of the leisure activities you’ve enjoyed so far this month. If by any chance, were these activities involving food, say that too.