Have you seen your car mechanic sometimes tilt his head and listen to the car sounds intently? I think that’s the cutest sight because it reminds me of my sweet dogs.
I digress. Just like how dogs and mechanics slant their heads to catch any strange sounds, I look for particular words that my people speak when they come for a session with me.
One that gets my attention is this four-lettered word can’t.
‘ I can’t give up milk.’
‘ I can’t let go of coffee ever.’
‘I can’t do this diet thing. It’s too hard.’
After patiently listening to all they’ve to say, I smile and ask – ‘hey, is it can’t do or won’t do?’
‘Of course, I can’t say I won’t, G’ they retort.
I ask why not.
And they give me some variation of ‘it will make me look like I am lazy/bad/resistant/disinterested.’
No no nooooo.
It will NOT make you look wicked or lazy or disinterested. It will make you seem honest.
And that, my friend, is a game-changer for you right there.
Being sincere about what you’re feeling about milk, coffee, diet, and just everything else in life, really – IS the first right step towards solving the problem – it will only help you arrive at solutions and move you forward, my dear reader.