Firstly, happy Independence Day!
On most special days, holidays and weekends – pretty much on all the days when I can laze back in bed for an extra ten minutes – I ask myself ‘how can I stop being lazy’ 😂
10 on 10 for the irony of it all!
Looks like am not alone at all.
Someone recently was saying to me ‘Girija, if I am so smart why can’t I get this crap done once and for all??’
They are trying to lose 20 kilos.
And another friend was saying of her cousin, ‘I dunno why she drinks so much – she’s way too intelligent for that’.
And apparently in both cases they are saying – ‘yeah yeah, we’ll get to it one of these days’
I know I do it all the time! All I’ve control over is, to do less of it .. that’s all.
What it is that you are procrastinating doesn’t matter – whether it is starting to eat healthy or learning some skill, or whatever it is, the dynamic of procrastination is the same.
When you sense that other people’s assessment of you is much higher than your own assessment of your talent or skill to get that specific job done, you will not like to risk losing your value in their eyes.
Therefore, in running the cost – benefit analysis of things (our brains are always running cost – benefit analysis on everything), your brain will decide it is much better to not ruin that false but favorable assessment of the world (she’s way too intelligent) or sometimes it could be your own self-assessment albeit a distorted one (I am so smart) about your “talent”. And therefore it decides that it is wise to indefinitely postpone doing or even starting the damn thing!
This is what we call the ego trap in evolutionary psychology circles. And this is exactly what you must learn to recognize and choose to take the counter-intuitive step if you want true and lasting freedom from procrastination.
Ask me why.
It’s because, that is where your opportunity to earn the precious self-esteem lies hidden!